3 Things I learnt from my first online 'haters'

I got my first ‘haters’ online this week. 

It was actually a really great feeling. This not might be the reaction you’d expect but I got a feeling of excitement after some vicious comments started appearing on a Kidspot interview I had done. 

A few years ago when I made the decision as Brene Brown puts it to ‘step inside the arena’ and play bigger. It was at that time that I said to myself, 

‘Are you really ready for this?’ 

Because I had seen what was happening to my friends when they put themselves out there by writing books, going on tv, and had something to say and pushed through any fear to say it. They have been slammed personally and it’s pretty awful to see, especially when there are threats against them and their families.

So I asked myself, was I truly up for criticism, because I do not deal with criticism well at all. Any type of conflict situation, something that is going to result in me having to stand up for myself in the face of someone I perceive as very strong and bully-like, I’m like a little mouse. Even thinking about it my stomach starts to clench and I feel a strong desire to run away.

But when I asked myself the question and dug deep to find the answer, it was a very strong, definite YES. That’s because I want to be in the arena throwing some punches. In order to do that I know I have to be getting kicked around a bit myself. 

So I looked at these online comments, took a very deep breath (well about ten of them) and I thought, Ok. Here we go. 

1. This is a sign I’m getting somewhere. If I wasn’t getting through to people, if my message wasn't getting out there, then I wouldn’t have any ‘haters’. 

2. I need to practise compassion - what is going on in this person’s life for her to write in this way. I could feel the sadness/shame/overwhelm underneath the anger. This was not about me. Is there something I could say to make her feel understood or not alone?

3. If I’m going to be in the ring, taking punches, playing big, I have to get myself in peak condition. I have to be fit, have endurance, be well, to have the energy to be not only in the ring but also back at home with energy left for my family. To have what it takes physically and mentally to rise back up from receiving a knock out punch, I need to have my mental health in order by taking little moments to move, meditate and give back to myself. 

Because the haters going to hate, hate, hate.

I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake…

Read the interview and responses HERE which led to the Daily Mail calling me to do another interview HERE.

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“Setting up inflexible rules around exercise – a certain amount of time, a certain activity, burning a certain number of calories – can hold us back from taking any action at all. When I started taking little moments in my day to move, I realised that my body didn’t care about all the ‘rules’ I had set up around what exercise had to be, or what it was meant to achieve. All my body wanted was to move, however and whenever it could. It didn’t care if that meant doing nothing more than an invigorating sweep of my house or two minutes of push-ups at my kitchen bench.”

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The book has launched!

Drumroll please.....

Two Minute Moves, the book, launches today! 

It's like my baby has finally been born.
Like any new parent, I think she is so beautiful and can't wait for you to see her! You can check her out HERE.

Here's a message I got from a reader who pre-ordered her copy:

"Your book is THE BEST and most inspiring and most non-overwhelming fitness book I've ever read! No joke, I've made some major little 2 minute changes in the past couple of days and already I am feeling so much better about myself. Have done 6 of the two minute workouts today when normally I would have done zero movement by this point. Just LOVING your book." 


First up I'll be heading to Avalon Surf Club at 10am for the Beachside Bookshop Launch. It's a free, very fun event for the whole family. Come along!

If you don't live in the Northern Beaches I hope to make it your local bookstore too. Check out upcoming events HERE and if you don't see one near you get in touch  and I'll try and make it happen. 

Plus HERE's the replay of my spot on Studio 10 if you missed it. Oh boy, did I have fun doing this. 

What's your Why?

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I was thinking about my WHY last night. Why I do what I do in my work. There were lots of answers. I want to: make a contribution, share what has helped me and what has helped others, live a fulfilled life, help those who are feeling stuck, overwhelmed, depressed. Then when I wrote down...

I want to be an example to my children

...that’s when the tears started and I had that feeling in my body that I knew I had struck a chord.

I want my kids to live a life that they love full of contribution, fulfilment and purpose.

I need to lead by example.

But I can’t do this if my energy is depleted, if I’m feeling completely stressed out, anxious and overwhelmed. Of course I want them to see that the journey is not always a smooth one, that it’s ok to have sadness, grief and anger. I want to show them how possible it is to work through the tough times.

But I want to show them it’s a journey worth taking. Not for the end result but for the road that gets you there.

I want to show them that in order to do what I want to do then I have to take care of myself. Make myself a priority. Have compassion towards myself. I want to show them that on his journey I am also nourishing myself. So that is what they do too. That is the norm.

I want to show them that to do this I need to be fit, I have to have endurance and I need to be strong physically and mentally. 

That to have the energy for my work, my friends and my family, I know I have to, as hard as this is to even write this, let alone believe it, I have to put myself first. But the thought of being at your best to give back to your family is good for banishing guilt. It’s also good for getting you out of bed in the morning. Setting that example is a driving force that gets me exercising, dancing round the house or has me setting my timer on my phone for two minutes to meditate, even when it’s the last thing I feel like doing.

I heard entrepreneur, Charlene Johnson, say when she thinks about the analogy of putting your oxygen mask on first that of course she would. I’ve never gone deeper with this thought other than yes I need to find my own oxygen mask for me. She put the focus on her children, ‘I want my children to survive, I want them to thrive’ she said in an episode of her podcast. ‘Of course I’d put my oxygen mask on first because I want them to live.’ 

What is a little moment you could do each day that’s your oxygen mask? 20 deep breaths, 20 push ups at the kitchen bench every morning, what could yours be? 

What does you making time for you, giving back to you, prioritising you, nourishing you mean for those around you that you care about the most?

For me, when I have given back to myself, I’m much more likely to read my daughters a story at night with more enthusiasm, even if it’s late. I’ll sing them an extra chorus of a song and spend an extra minute rubbing their back at night. When I’ve given back to me I can do this wth love rather than the feeling of ‘get me out of here for a glass of wine’. These are such little things but they add up to such a big difference. 

#EachMomentCounts. 

 

 

 

The little moments

How often do you give back to yourself?

The first time I did a workout at my kitchen bench was when my mindset on doing something for myself changed. Before that moment eight years ago, I thought self-care and exercise was way too hard for me. I had two little girls, was so tired, had post-natal depression so there was no way I was getting myself to that ninety minute boxing class or an hour jog I used to do. That meant I couldn't do anything, right?

If it couldn't be a certain amount of time, if I couldn't leave the house or if it wasn't going to give me certain results (e.g. the perfect body) then there was no point. In this mindset I felt completely stuck.

When I began doing a few moves at my kitchen bench, I realised that taking even a little moment to do something, no matter how small or insignificant it felt at the time, was so worthwhile. That is counted. It gave me a feeling of achievement, a boost in my self-worth for doing something for me, and that was enough to keep me coming back for more. But I know it's not easy.

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Here is a photo of a moment that was captured by my hubby on the weekend of  my daughters and I lying in sun as I gave them each a massage. I am running on overdrive at the moment with the book launch fast approaching. I've been stressed out with trying to remember to organise dinner for kids that is more than a piece of toast, been racked with guilt of the amount of hours the babysitter is looking after them and feel like I have got to the end of my day and even though o've been working my butt off I'm not exactly sure what I've achieved.

I tend to get things organised on the weekend but I looked over at my daughters as I was cleaning up in the kitchen and decided that now was the moment to take a moment. So out in the sun we went and even though the washing didn't put itself away, the emails started piling up, I had the most beautiful moment with them and for me (they fell asleep!)


I lay there thinking about the power of the moment and what it would look like if you were to find one moment in your day to give back to yourself. Not waited until you could go on a weekend health retreat, the deadline was completed, your kids were older or the house looked like something out of Home Beautiful. You just did one little achievable something that made you feel good. . 

At the end of the week:

What would that look like?
What would that feel like?
What would that do for your self-esteem?
What would that do for your self worth?

What would that do for your family?



 I'll be talking about this in my Facebook Live Session tomorrow if you want to join me at 2pm Tuesday Sydney time. Plus stay tuned in this blog for more on why each moment counts and how to take them.

Join the free Two Minute Movers Facebook Group HERE to be part of the conversation or watch the replay. 


Love Lizzy

 

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Bite-Size 'Pissed Off' Move

I have never experienced anger like I did when I had my second baby. I found myself punching brick walls, throwing packets of pasta to the floor and the shame in having my kids look at me terrified as I screamed the house down. One day I felt so pissed off that I started doing these kicks in my kitchen. It was in that moment that I realized that a much better way to deal with my strong emotions was to move through them. That moment was a game changer. These are still my favourite alternative moves to slamming doors or an entire block of chocolate.

'Making a Cup Of Tea' Moves with my Mum

Tell me I'm going to look and feel like my mum in 28 years and I will be one happy lady. My mum is a Two Minute Mover - 'Wine Bottle Workouts' when she gets her from her evening walk, 'Dips' as she watches the news every night and she seizes so many moments in her day to be active. 

She has been looking after my daughters for a week while I have been in book pre-launch-land. She has so much energy for them and that is one of the biggest things that keeps me inspired to move. I want to be a grandma like her - full of vitality, joy and have a body that doesn't hold me back.

We were about to make a cup of tea when I asked if she'd film a Two Minute Move with me. I'm so glad she said yes as I loved watching this back and I'm so glad I can share these two fast-working moves with you.

 

 

'In Bed' Moves

"Do you Two Minute Move in bed, Lizzy?"

That's the question I was asked by a PT client the other day. My answer? 

Of course I do and so can you! 

Here are two of my favourite moves for you to do when you're in bed reading a book or scrolling through Facebook. Not only is it a great workout for your core but it's also a divine treat for your back, chest and shoulders as you open up and stretch out a tired/cranky/end-of-day body.  

Top Tip: Do up a bookmark with 'Two Minute Moves tummy time' written on it to remind you to do these exercises when you open up your book in bed. 

'SodaStream Bottles' Moves

It's Friday which usually means #WineBottleWorkout time but I'm aware that not everyone has wine stocked in their cupboard (hard to believe but true) so I wanted to demonstrate you can use non-alcoholic bottles to get an awesome arm workout too!  It just so happens I was sent a whizz-bang SodaStream machine which now sits on my kitchen bench as a shiny reminder to do a few moves everyday with my soda bottles (which no longer end up in the bin - super happy about that).  

These four moves are sooooooooo good for your tricep muscles. Your triceps are an often underused part of your arm - the bit that tends to jiggle when you shake your arm. Now there is nothing wrong with a bit of a jiggle, we're not barbie dolls after all, but it feels really nice to switch on this part and have it strong.  

Top Tip: Put a post-it note on your bottles to remind you to do a little lifting before you do a bit of drinking. 

'High Intensity Housework' Moves

This is how you get fit and feeling good.

It's High Intensity Interval Training and my favourite time to do it is when I'm doing the housework. I've just done this workout now as I've been finding it really hard to get going again after a super-relaxing holiday. But if there's anything I've learnt from these Two Minute Moves is that the less I feel like doing something is the time I need to do it the most. 

This Two Minute Move is for when you have a broom in your hand. Instead of feeling annoyed or frustrated with all the mess, you're going to feel energised, motivated and ready to rock the rest of your day. Let's do it. 

'Lying Down Love for Arms and Core' Wine Bottle Workout

If you've been hunched over a computer, phone, baby, or just feeling a bit down, you will love the first move in this workout. It is a beautiful chest and heart opener. The second move connects deeply in to your core and gives you a great twist to wring out any of those toxins, both physical and emotional, you may have gathered over the week.

I don't think I've ever done this much writing in my adult life as I have in the last two years with this book of mine that is off to the printer! So I know my body is in need of a whole lot of love and stretching out too.  Happy days with these wine bottle moves. 

'Binge-watching Netflix' Moves

Here's an awesome little habit for you.

When the opening credits of your face Netflix show starts, before you get up to have lunch at work, or when you see a park bench, do these two moves.

10 dips for some tricep love and 20 knee raises for a whole lot of tummy love x 3.

Imagine the difference if you did that a few times a week. 

'Work your Core on a Chair' Moves

It's time to get those joints moving!

Do you find when you're doing a lot of sitting your body starts to feel really stiff and sore? I know after a long car ride when I get out of the car I can pretty much hear my hips creaking. Having our body in the one position for a long period of time in our waking hours can put us in 'sleep' mode which means the brain and your energy isn't firing like you most likely want it to.  It's super easy to get it going again though; a couple of minutes or less of moving is all it takes to have your body and brain calling out a big, THANK YOU!  

'Cooking' Moves

Don't you love the simple things?

That's what these moves are. But, don't be fooled. They still are so effective at getting your muscles working super fast. 

The best thing about them is you can do them anywhere. I did them when I had a ten minute wait in the queue at Officeworks yesterday. Sure, I got a couple of strange looks but Im hoping to start a Two Minute Moves movement so I smiled and kept going!